When my husband and I got married, we were curious to find out what our family would look like. I come from a family of practically all girls and girl cousins (my mom was one of five girls!), and Scott came from a family of almost all boys. Now that we are expecting our fourth girl, I think I can confidently declare that my Perez proclivity toward girls is strong. But we do get some weird comments, and have ever since we found out we were expecting our second girl. Here are a few examples:
1) So are you going to keep trying for that boy?
Nope, we just like having babies, girl or boy. Our middle girls are by no means incidentals on our quest for a male child. We don’t live in Downton Abbey in the 19th century, fortunately enough.
2) Oh no! All of those weddings to pay for!
You never know, they might all become nuns.
3) Just wait until they are all teenagers (accompanied by a portent of doom face)
I know! They might be . . . . . . emotional.
4) You must spend so much money on little girls’ clothing!
Yes, yes I do.
5) Daddy better get a shotgun!
If we did, it wouldn’t be used to shoot potential suitors, but thank you very much. And because we are both lawyers, we definitely wouldn’t use it to commit the tort of assault, either.
6) Your poor husband! He is hopelessly outnumbered!
Well, don’t tell him that. He seems to be under the impression that he is very blessed. I would rather you not disillusion him.
7) I’ll bet you are sick to death of the color pink.
It is true that all things pink seem to take over your house once you have a baby girl. It doesn’t really bother me. There are worse colors out there.
8) To my husband, “Is your family name going to die out?”
There are lots of things my husband and I worry about. This is not one of them.
I’ve noticed a lot of these posts are entitled, “What NOT to say to parents of . . . .” and I decided not to phrase it that way because I don’t want people to feel like they are walking on eggshells when they talk to parents and anything they could say will probably offend us. I don’t think any of these questions are impertinent or intrusive. I think people are just making conversation. But they do demonstrate a lot of misconceptions about raising girls, and about raising lots of girls in particular.
Families of all or multiple girls, are there any good ones I’ve missed?