In honor of World Breastfeeding Week: Mary didn’t give Jesus a bottle?

Featured image: The Holy Family by El Greco

When I was in the hospital after delivering Rhea, I was infinitely grateful that I was able to receive the Eucharist while I was there from a visiting priest. It was one of the most awkward experiences of my life, though. First of all, I spend 99% of my hospital stay after having a baby mostly undressed and nursing. I had no idea that the priest was going to stop by, so I was in my default post-baby mode (namely, mostly undressed). I had expected one of the nurses was coming in, so we asked him to give me a minute as I got as fancy as I could (robe and hair in a ponytail) and let him back in. I received the Eucharist and the priest lingered a little while to chat afterward.

“Are you breastfeeding the child?” he asked us.

“Why, yes,” we replied.

“Good. Because you know, Mary didn’t give Jesus a bottle.” he stated matter-of-factly.

Yikes. I’m sure Mary didn’t use an electric swing either, but we sure as heck put that thing to good use. Guilt free! I thought that was a pretty weird thing for a priest to say, and I really hoped he doesn’t place shame on other mothers if they don’t end up breastfeeding. Because let’s face it, folks. There are much more pressing moral issues than whether you are giving your child a bottle or not. I am sure there are plenty of saints in heaven who bottle fed their kids. Both my mom and my husband were formula fed, and we haven’t noticed any long term ill effects yet. They are both attorneys and in perfect health. 

I have a love-hate relationship with breastfeeding myself. Breastfeeding my eldest was torture. I was in so much pain, she hated it and would scream and cry at the breast, and my supply completely died when I got pregnant again, much to both of our relief. Once she switched to the bottle, she was a completely different, completely content baby who was growing and thriving. My other three have been a dream to breastfeed, and I simply love watching with pride as they get chubbier and chubbier from my milk, and experiencing those precious moments holding them and seeing that little dimpled hand clasp my shirt as the eyes flutter and she drifts off to a contented sleep. But I don’t know, I just have a hard time believing it is a moral Catholic imperative to breastfeed. I could be wrong, though. Is there something in the Catechism or in an encyclical that states we MUST breastfeed? The reason being that Mary did it? Feel free to tell me in the comments because I am genuinely curious.

And on the flip side of the coin, why are breastfeeding mothers being put to shame as well?  I used to roll my eyes at the “Normalize Breastfeeding” movement. Nobody cares if you breastfeed or not, naive Sylvia said. Until I heard my aunt tell the story that she was nursing in a bathroom sitting room during a formal event with a nursing cover. She said a gaggle of 12 year old girls were in the bathroom preening and chatting. And the whole group of girls were curious as to what my aunt was doing. One girl was so nonplussed, she went over to my aunt and lifted up the nursing cover to see what was going on underneath it. Then, it hit me. The “Normalize Breastfeeding” people could be right! I mean, here were a group of girls who probably knew at this point where babies come from, but had no idea how babies were fed! It’s absurd! What is so wrong with children knowing about breastfeeding? Will it corrupt their innocence to know that moms can nourish children in ways other than with a bottle? I really don’t see how this could possibly be the case. And why should we be ashamed to breastfeed in public? You are exposed to no more breast from a breastfeeding mother than you are on a daily basis from underwear ads, bikinis, and the latest fashion trends. Sure, there might be a nip slip every now and then, but that happens to non-breastfeeding women in a low cut top too. The majority of us use a nursing cover and remedy that little problem anyway. I’m so tired of hiding by myself in a room to nurse like I am doing something undignified or embarrassing.  

So we should normalize breastfeeding. I think it would be a beautiful and wonderful thing for children to know that some mommies nurse their babies, and that is perfectly normal. And moms shouldn’t have to feel defensive about formula feeding their children either. Because I’m sure Mary would feel nothing but compassion for mothers assiduously feeding their children something that will help them grow and thrive, no matter the medium.

  

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About sylcell

Wife, mom of four girls, Catholic, insatiable sweet tooth
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14 Responses to In honor of World Breastfeeding Week: Mary didn’t give Jesus a bottle?

  1. beverley Baggett says:

    I totally agree!!

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  2. Cheryl says:

    We def need to normalize BFing! I was fired from a new job last week when management found out I nursed my 15mo son there (it did not interfere with me doing my job either and he was allowed to be at work with me)

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  3. Courtney says:

    nip slip! laughed out loud to that one. obviously, I’m very PRObreastfeeding. no secret there. I *do* get annoyed with the movements though as well. completely agree that breastfeeding should not be shamed, nor should bottle feeding. why make such a huge stink over it though? I’m just feeding my baby in the middle of the mall, covered appropriately, who cares!?! I don’t want to say “don’t look” or “mind your own business” or “who cares” (I did say that, didn’t I?) but why do people need to be so strongly apposed one way or another about it. shaking head… rambled there. probably didn’t make any sense. BUT #proudbreastfeeder ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    • sylcell says:

      No, I agree with you. People should stop making such a big deal about it either way. That is the irony inherent in the #normalizeit movement. The second you stop loudly crusading for it, it will probably become more normal! ๐Ÿ˜‚

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  4. morgan says:

    gosh, that last reply was meant for storiesofourboys. hrmpf

    I love your post! AMEN to everything.
    Sometimes I think that it would NOT be a bad thing if catholic priests were allowed to marry and have families! That comment totally confirms it for me. They can be so… like they live on another planet…

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    • sylcell says:

      I mean, totally! Well, it would mess up a ton of Catholic theology about the priest being married to the church, and their vows of celibacy, but I definitely think some of them shouldn’t presume to know about stuff like that.

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  5. Thanks a lot. That picture makes me want to have another baby. It’s that view.

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  6. My oldest (3 at the time) had many questions about my (horribly failed) attempt at pumping. I told him that some mommies feed a baby from their breast and other mommies feed them from a bottle. I want my boys to support their future wives in however they decide to feed their children, and hope that my daughter someday receives the same from her husband. I think it’s an “our mom age” generational thing to think that nursing mom’s should be hidden away and I hope that we can continue to push so that it’s not that way. Baby needs fed, baby should be fed, where ever and however mom is comfortable ๐Ÿ™‚

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