I always thought it was kind of silly that we call pregnant women “expectant mothers” or “moms-to-be.” As anyone who has been pregnant knows, we become moms the second that tiny little being starts growing inside of us. We nourish our children, watch out for them, help them grow, make decisions about them, and love them long before they emerge from the womb. As we eventually feel their rolls, kicks, pokes and jabs, we know that there isn’t merely the expectation of our child in there, but an actual child making his or her presence forcefully known. Heck, my children make their presence forcefully known way earlier than that with the debilitating nausea and fatigue, but we won’t dwell on that.
I would like to take the opportunity to wish all pregnant mamas a very happy mother’s day. I see you hugging the toilet, passing out at inopportune moments, worrying about your unborn child, waddling around, swelling up like a balloon, popping Tums like they’re candy, already sacrificing so much for them by selflessly giving them your entire body so that they can grow and thrive, and I want you to know that this is your day too.
I also want to take a moment to recognize all of the mothers who fulfilled their motherly duty too soon and already have children in heaven. Whether you lost children to miscarriage, still birth, or beyond, I see you too. I myself have three little saint babies that I desperately hope to be reunited with some day. You are very special mothers and always will be. This is very much your day, and I want to wish you a very happy mother’s day. I wish I could send each and every one of you the most beautiful bouquet of roses. You deserve it.
To all of the women aching to have a child, but have yet to have that earnest desire fulfilled, I see you too. You have made the momentous decision to become a mother, and that is no small thing. You also possess the secret that most of us do not have, namely, that children are blessings that should never be taken for granted. On this day you are not forgotten, and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
I know some people believe that this is a silly Hallmark holiday, but I think it serves a very important purpose. We, as imperfect humans, tend to forget to set some time aside to be grateful for those around us if left to our own devices. So having days to remind us to do so is a wonderful thing, I think.
Happy mother’s day to my own mother, the woman who cared for me and my siblings, gave me the gift of my faith, and has been an excellent example of motherhood that I try my best to emulate with my own children.
Happy mother’s day to us all.