Re Re Regression!

Remember this post where I smugly announced my second child was potty trained?  Well, apparently I lied.  She has regressed, and regressed hard.

It was about a week after she stopped having accidents.  I still had to remind her to go pee pee every two hours or so, but she was otherwise doing fine.  Then, she started having accidents.  So, I shortened the time period that I had to remind her to go potty from two hours to one hour.  She was still wetting her underwear after that time period, so I shortened the time period to 45 minutes.  Nope.  She was STILL going to the potty with wet underwear.  This week, I have been having to remind her every 20-30 minutes to go potty, and she still has 3-4 accidents a day.  So somehow we have ended up back at square one, day one of potty training.  What the heck happened?!!  



This is how her tantrums look.  Completely silent other than the occasional “hmph”, arms crossed, chin jutting out.  We have been seeing this move a lot while she is sitting on the potty lately.

I do not understand what happened.  I don’t even understand how the child can pee this much.  It is not like she is chugging water all day.  We have had to leave the house a couple of times (I mean, it has been about a month since we started, we were going to have to leave the house some time) and I have been forced to put her in pullups while we were out because there was no way I was taking her to the bathroom every 20 minutes.  Usually, our car rides are longer than that.  With her pullup on though, I would finally put her on the potty after 2 hours or so, and it would be completely dry! I am beyond confused.  She seems to be doing better in pullups when we are out of the house than when she is in our house in underwear. What. The. Heck. 

So, it’s back to the drawing board.  I’m going to have to regroup and see what to do from here.  Probably next week is going to be one long week of staying home and trial and error.  Timer? No timer? Rewards? Sticker chart? Underwear? Pullups? Oh joy. 

Wish me luck.  At this point, I’m ready to throw in the pee soaked towel (too vivid of a metaphor?) and just wait until she is old enough for me to send her in the bathroom with some sort of potty handbook for her to read.  Perhaps when she is 10?  I guess we’ll have to put her in Depends by then since she is already in the biggest diaper size they offer.



Another (horribly unfocused) shot of her being cooperative.

Any advice would be appreciated.  Should I just power through this or give up and try again later?

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Wife, mom of four girls, Catholic, insatiable sweet tooth
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25 Responses to Re Re Regression!

  1. Oh my goodness, I can so relate!! Right now my second is in underwear during the day and uses a pull up at night, but she’ll go the whole day without pooping until I put on her night time pull up. What’s that about?!

    Anyway, I had a ton of respect for you when you said you potty trained in a week, and I have a ton more respect for you (and renewed faith in myself) since you’ve shared what we’re all going through with this potty training business : ) Hang in there!!

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    • sylcell says:

      Hey, I try to keep it real on here;) Good luck to you! I think we’re going to take a little break and try again later. This was starting to put a serious strain on our relationship, haha.

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      • manhattandouble says:

        Nothing wrong with that! Believe me, my kids are 4, 3 and 2 and you just can’t stress about potty training, it’ll happen, they won’t spend the rest of their lives in diapers, and my perspective is that if it takes a little longer but spares me and my child some frustration then that’s just fine. : )

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  2. Siné says:

    My daughter was like that at 2.5 and we gave up until she was 3. It has been a breeze this go around.

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  3. Kendra says:

    Our 3rd child had no interest in potty-training. I tried when he was 3 1/2 and had no luck. Realizing that I will never win the potty battle, I stopped completely for several months. When he turned 4 I informed him that he would have to start changing his own diapers, thinking that he would tire of that quickly. Instead, I would walk by his room and see him in the middle of changing his diaper and no more inclined to use the toilet than he was a year earlier! After a couple of months of this I told him he had to start using the toilet. He innocently responded with “but why, mommy?” “Because you are 4 years old and it is time.” It took one week and three accidents and potty training was done. Changing his diapers for four years was not my first choice, but if he is going to get done in one week, it’s almost worth it! Child #4 is now in the process and it is going the best of all our children! Each child is different. And you are right, having three in diapers is no fun, but you will look back on these days in a few years and realize how little of your life is eaten up by these little troubles!

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    • sylcell says:

      That is so true. I think I am going to give it one more week, but if she is not ready, she is not ready. I can’t be chained to the house for months on end and let this consume all of our lives. She will get there eventually.

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      • morgan says:

        Oh my I can totally relate to that. With our first I asked myself for over a year why oh why I did this whole potty training business. But he DID NOT want to wear diapers anymore and still we had accidents on an almost daily basis.
        My advice would be: ask your girl if she wants to wear diapers or big-girl-panties. If she wants to wear diapers: stop training and try again in a couple of weeks / months. The arrival of a baby is a typical regression time anyway 😉 If she opts for the big-girl panties: good luck 😉 We went through ups and downs for weeks and weeks and weeks and … then our second informed us that she’s too old to wear diapers. *head => desk*

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      • sylcell says:

        She wants underwear (cooler designs) but I just can’t clean up 5-8 messes a day every day any more. I am going to give us both a little break and then try again. I could wait until after the new baby to avoid that infamous regression, although my children are pretty used to new babies by now;)

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  4. Gaye says:

    Oh my .. that tantrum is so cute 🙂 … Rewards always worked with my lot in those early days – having the jar of smarties or jelly beans in view is key to this method working. When they realise that they get a lolly after every toilet trip it can become a bit of a game so I would only give a lolly when we could see the evidence …. Good luck 🙂

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  5. Emily says:

    Her looks are horribly precious. It seems she is trying to assert herself. I know this isn’t ideal, but with our second I used m&m’s. If she made it, we had a big celebration and her and her older brother each got 1 m&m. Motivation from siblings because, hey, they get a reward too. It also worked with my 3rd. Eventually I tell them now you have to go 3x for 1 m&m… And so on. Then I give them an age when they have become all grown up and no more treats. 🙂

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    • sylcell says:

      I have been doing 1 chocolate chip for any pee that makes it in the potty and 2 for any poo. I had just changed it to chocolate chips for pee/poop in the potty AND undies are still clean and dry, but that seems to be confusing her?

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  6. Bless! I don’t envy you this job. So far I’ve potty trained three toddlers, and they all went through some sort of regression like this at some point. I once had an old friend email me a potty training question, and I could tell she was confused as to why it couldn’t be completely finished in a week. But it’s just not. Toddlers have a whole lot of learning and developing and playing going on, and all we can do is guide and direct and hope for the best, right? She’ll get right back on track, and who knows maybe then it will be a long time before her next accident. Hang in there. You are amazing.

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    • sylcell says:

      Thank you, mama! You have made me feel infinitely better. Heck, Ruth took 9 months to get to the point where I don’t have to remind her to go potty. So, this is simply a lovely opportunity to exercise the virtue of patience;)

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  7. Elise says:

    I am sad for this post. I was so excited for you that it had seemed to go so well. My oldest was a preemie and she didn’t fully potty train until a week past her fourth birthday. She has a lot of medical and other issues to attend to so potty training was on the back burner. My second was full term and very clever. With baby 4 on the way we decided we better get number 2 potty trained to avoid the three in diapers thing. She was a few months shy of three and seemed ready. She did great and was about 90% potty trained. I was happy. Then she got a UTI, and we spent the next 5 months dealing with UTI’s, finally a specialist put her on a low dose antibiotic. By that time she was fully regressed. The pain of the UTI’s made her fearful to go. It has been a full year now and she is STILL not potty trained. She will be four this month. She has the pee thing figured out, but she refuses to go number two, and because she doesn’t want to go she ends up going in small messy increments all day long. I have no words of wisdom, we have tried everything with our very stubborn girl, just empathizing with you. Potty training is the worst! My number 3 is 2 now and I feel like we should get started with him, but he has no interest. It has now been 8 months with three in diapers. We have as many changing stations as children, and wipes in every room. Baby four is my most laid back, I pray this is a sign of an easy potty trainer to be! hahaha!

    Best of luck on this journey, I hope she figures it out!

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    • sylcell says:

      Yeah, I was thinking back, and I had three in diapers when Wren was born, and I survived. I don’t know why I’m pushing myself (and her) so hard if it is just going to cause us undue stress. She will get there eventually. Best of luck to you with all of your potty trainees! I guess we won’t be sending them to high school in diapers. There is a light at the end of the (very long) tunnel.

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  8. Lynn says:

    Haha. My son did this to me. I put him back in diapers. he hated it. After 1 wet diaper he was going to the potty by himself and he’s had one accident in the last week 😉 Mommy win!
    Good Luck!!

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  9. Boeta says:

    Oh that face I am starting to know too, little man is also doing that lately.

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  10. Ashley P says:

    My friend gave me a “potty watch” that she used for her son. It’s really cute. You can set it for however many minutes you want it to beep and then it plays music when it’s time to go potty. I haven’t tried potty training my son yet. He’s 2 1/2 and I am waiting until he’s ready… Right now he’s definitely not. Google the watch. She may like wearing it and hearing the music. Good luck!

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