I get asked this all the time. I usually stammer some awkward explanation about being on perpetual maternity leave because I feel like “I AM working, and when the kids grow up and leave the house, I will be enjoying my well-deserved retirement,” isn’t quite the answer they are looking for.
As an aside, I feel obligated to mention that if you are looking for a discussion on whether “working” moms or “stay at home” moms are better or have a harder life, then look elsewhere. I have never been a working mom, so I am not going to presume to speak on something about which I have no knowledge.
Back to the topic of this post, I’m not sure the answer they are expecting. When the kids are in school? At that time, I have big plans that include: sitting down for more than five minutes, going to the bathroom by myself with the door closed, eating a meal without having to share half my plate, learning to no longer be anxious about prolonged silences, and running errands that don’t involve drive throughs.
I used to practice law before I had my eldest, and I hated it. Being a “stay at home” mom has truly felt like my vocation in life. It is by far the most difficult thing I have ever done, but it is also by far the most fulfilling. I love being with my little blessings, and I feel very fortunate to be able to do so. Don’t worry, I am putting that law degree to good use. My children are the offspring of two attorneys, and I have put my legal training to the test in presenting my closing argument to my eldest on why using the potty is superior to diapers. So far, it has been a loss, but I have high hopes for the appeal.
I look back and wonder why I feel the need to make excuses when people ask me whether I am going back to work. The next time someone asks me that, I am merely going to answer that my children are my life’s work right now, and that is what I am focused on. I have no idea what the future holds for us, but as my sister says, any steps we may take in the future will be purposeful, and not just because it is what society expects us to do.